Hello again! So happy that you are continuing with me on our journey to finding the secret to achieving happiness in both a practical and useful way. Today I’m sharing with you the second part to my series on The Happiness Matrix.
I hope you’ve already been thinking over what you’ve learned in part one. If you haven’t had the opportunity to read part one, it’s an important piece to explaining The Happiness Matrix. You can read part one here. And then return to this post to read more about implementing The Happiness Matrix in your daily life.
The Four Pieces of The Happiness Matrix
In my first post I shared with you the two different axes that make up The Happiness Matrix. The first axis is the proactive mode vs. the reactive/ receptive mode. The second axis is where we reduce our emotional and mental burdens by reducing the factors that make us unhappy and increase our happiness by increasing the factors that make us feel good.
With two parts to each axis, we have four parts within the matrix. These four parts are like four fitting pieces of a jigsaw puzzle. But before we can jump deeper into each piece of the puzzle, I want to share an important side note.
“The cause of emotional and mental burdens will vary from person to person. The same with happiness.”
First, I want you to observe yourself.
It’s important to note that happiness and sadness are extremely subjective and is different for each person. With that said, I want you to first take the time to observe yourself. How you do this is up to you. You can write your observations down, or you can simply make a mental note.
What usually causes you discomfort?
This is different for each person. For some people, getting criticized by their boss might not bother them as much as being criticized by their significant other. For others, getting criticized by their boss could cause them to stress out for 3-days, while being criticized by their family might leave them unbothered.
What burdens our mind is different for each person. Take a moment to observe yourself and note the things that bring you the most discomfort in life. What makes you unhappy?
What brings you happiness?
Repeat the same exercise, but this time note the things that make you happy. It can be simple things, and highly important things. We’re all different when it comes to what brings us happiness.
What brings you happiness might differ from what brings me happiness. For some people a successful career brings happiness. For some, having a loving family brings happiness. And for others, happiness means growing into a better version of themselves—a smarter, better looking, etc. version.
“Knowing what causes you discomfort and what leads you to happiness is an important first step”
As you can see, both sadness and happiness are very subjective. This is why I put a lot of emphasis on first, observing yourself so that you can become more self-aware and so you can better understand yourself and make better and happier decisions. Once you’ve completed this step, let’s dive into using The Happiness Matrix in your daily life.